Never tell your problems to anyone... 20% don't care and the other 80% are glad you have them.
~ Lou Holtz
I saw this quote minutes ago. Yes, it is one of those things that sort of hangs around and floats there for awhile in my brain.
Memorable? Well, is it obvious? :-) Why? Because, in a sense, it holds a grain of truth. It urges one to contemplate on whether or not he is leading an abject life because he had chosen to lay his book of life open to everyone.
Sure, it's fine to share secrets, to air out problems. But, there are times when saying too much can cause more predicaments than when you started with. Besides, you may not be sure if the person you're sharing things with would really hold your best interests at heart.
I remember watching The Tyra Banks Show about this segment on being a Player Hateher where the closest of friends seem to ditch dirt on each other.
What I found increasingly abhorrent about that segment was when a particular guest admitted that when she would experience hurdles, the other one gets weirdly satisfied. Yeah, underlying reasons may ensue for that sort of behavior. But during these real experiences, it may be difficult for those involved to see that.
I've been burned by frenemies (friends turned enemies) in the past to whom I've chosen to entrust my life stories.
So, perhaps, the above quote would even be better if I add... "Anyway, problems would even be more gigantic if you choose to divulge EVERYTHING - even to those whom you know and trusted for years because that person may harbor the so-called Player Hateher personality."
Tip? When you're in the midst of crazy moments, keep your lips sealed. If you really have this itch to share, choose one or two people. Better yet, pray or meditate instead. Or, if you love to write, then let your fingers do the talking . You don't need to send it. Just don't forget to keep those notes. They may come in handy for a new story. :-)